3 Boys and a Mom - Diary of a Tagteam

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

We are having a lovely little party.... I made a hoard of horderves for dinner - we had dogs in croissant rolls, hot crab dip w/triskets, chips and dip, breaded mushrooms, mozz sticks and onion rings... I got us party hats, blower horn thingies, confetti and a little bottle of champagne.... Mom is snoozing on the couch, Ethen is sleeping, the boys are running wild in the hall and I am struggling to stay awake... We just have to last 2 more hours - just 2 more hours... at 10:30 we will raise a ruckus along w/my fellow Newfoundlanders and then it's off to bed.... Real party animals aren't we???

E gave me a major rash of shit today... The boys lost the Xbox cause they almost broke a toy of Ethen's, E tried to tell me they were NOT grounded from the Xbox and he was coming to get them cause I was being mean and rude to them... EXCUSE ME??? YOU have NO RIGHT to tell me how to discipline the boys and you most certainly do NOT have any control over the Xbox - you bought them an extra controller and memory card today that's YOUR problem buddy - no one asked you to!!!! THEN he asked again if I wanted to go out tonight with him.... Man what fucking world does he live on??? I want tickets to that show for sure!!! The asshat really boils my blood some days but my new resolve for the new year is to just let it flow over me.... He gave me crap the other day too - the boys weren't feeling well on Monday, Wednesday they had school friends over - they have been asking for weeks now... He was pissed I didn't give him first crack at them if they were better and threatened to come get them even if they did have company... Then he went on about some vacation/visitation crap - yes you have liberal visitation but it's also supposed to be REASONABLE - last minute just to piss me off is NOT reasonable you asshat!!! Then he had the nerve to ask me if I wanted to go out with him tonight..... Tonight's conversation ended with me telling him to stop calling ME and harrassing ME - he was free to call the boys but not me.... He made some comment about stopping him - he could call ME all he wanted.... I told him if I had to I would get a restraining order if I had to... His adult reply - "Then I will never see the children again" and he hung up.... I am assuming he passed out cause he hasn't called back thank god!!!

The boys and I are going to work on being a better, calmer family unit and do more fun things together and be more organized in general... I need to work on a chore and reward system for them.....

For now I will nurse my Jack and Coke and veg in front of the tv..... Out with the bad and in with the better!! HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!! HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!! Til next time...

Here's a little summary of Christmas 2005 for us...   not necessarily in chronological order as the immediately above pic is from Weds night when we did the tree and the very first pic is the last taken yesterday but still a good summary!!    HAPPY HOLIDAYS to you all!!!!

MERRY CHRISTMAS - HAPPY HOLIDAYS -

SOOO I am done with shopping - just have to pick up a couple pr of thermal/pj thingies at KidCity today and of course WRAP!!!! WOOOOO HOOOOOO and THANK YOU to my guardian angels that helped out a bit...

We put up Bruce the Spruce (George - the real tree - got the flu shot this yr and couldn't make it but he sent his cousin Bruce in a neat little box! *LOL*)... We just need to decorate tonight... I made a bunch of Nutter Butter Santa cookies for the kids to take to school and candy cane reindeer.... Mom made cookies for the office (aka my Boss! *L*) and the bus driver... The teachers and aides got Xmas Trees made from Star Shaped Sugar Cookie cutouts... They came out ok - not as great at Food TV but still looked cute.... I just hope that everyone liked them...

Home Depot held a workshop a couple weeks ago at the Y and E volunteered for it so the boys went and Dilen made a bird house for the neighbor, we have a bird feeder for us, Deven make himself a CD box and we have a train bank that Deven made.... I am finally feeling the holiday spirit just in time for the holiday... I am off for 2 whole days and looking forward to just relaxing at home!!! Well lunch is here and then it's early release.... Til next time.... HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!!

HAPPY WINTER!!! It's the first official day of winter and brrrrr it's definately chilly out!

and in other news -- MEN SUCK!!!!!

E giving me a hassle AGAIN soooo I decided - screw him!!! I spent a bit more then I really should have and got each boy an item of their list even though he had already got Dilen the Optimus Prime Transformer that was SUPPOSED to be from Santa... Well it will be from whoever at E's place cause he wanted to give me a hard time today so I just spent $$ I didn't have and took care of the boys myself (isn't Xmas all about over extending yourself anyway??)... He actually even threatened to tell them there is no Santa!! Oh I am fuming - totally fuming!!! Anyway - boys are FINALLY taken care of - I just need to exchange some pj's and we are done... Well there are still tons of crafty/cooking things to do but shopping is done... YEAH!!!!! Sooo it's off to make my list and get ready to head home and start cleaning/cooking/crafting!!! Til next time!!

Can we say SCREWED boys and girls??? That's S-C-R-E-W-E-D... Used in a sentence - Santa is sooo screwed cause he can't find ANYTHING on one particular 8 yo's list....

Oh wait - there are 2 items in the online store.... ARRGGG they are SOLD OUT!!!! Well I still have three more places to check before I fully give in!!! Til next time...

Perhaps I am partially to blame....

Bipolar You scored 61% depression and 53% mania!

You are bipolar.There are different types of bipolar disorder, of which I am not very experienced, but I will tell you what I know. Type I is the most serious one, with mania and depression, being both quite serious. Type II, with hypomania (a milder mania) and depression. Type III is usually called cyclothymia, with mild episodes of depression and mania. Bipolar disorder affects around 1% of US citizens (statistics made in the US). From my own experience I know this is a difficult disease to cope with, which can be said for many reasons: the sudden changes of mood, the highs of the manic phases and the lows of the depressive ones... Plus, most psychiatrists agree that one is a bipolar for life, since there is no cure for it, only a stabilizing treatment. Wait, this is no reason to go kill yourself... I'll tell you my own opinion: the best thing to do is to see a psychiatrist if you haven't done it yet, and then follow the treatment. I mean, I sincerely prefer following a lifelong treatment than being so ill, being hospitalized or even killing myself. There is always someone who loves us, we have to stay here. Please. Usual treatment is a mood stabilizer, the most used thereof being lithium, even though some psychiatrists prefer using the milder valproate. Lithium is not so evil as it is usually painted, of course it has a couple side effects, but even a simple aspirin does. It requires periodical takings of blood: after a while you will get used to it. If you are on a depressive phase you might as well have to take mild antidepressants. A well-led psychotherapy can also do some good. For more information you can check this site: http://www.psycom.net/depression.central.bipolar.html And I extremely recommend this one forum to Italian-speaking people: http://www.freeforumzone.com/viewforum.aspx?f=43204

Or maybe it just rubbed off from asshat! BAHAHAHAHA Holiday preparations continue at a SLOW pace but they are continuing... Til next time...

Arrggggggg the father of my sons is a complete and TOTAL ASS sometimes.... I swear!!!! He actually gigged his child support payment $10 for the money he gave me at Karate this week to register the boys for the next session - TEN DOLLARS!!!! Ok not a bunch but hey that's almost 1/2 tank of gas in the van!!!! THEN he is being a twit about helping out with Xmas gifts/$$ and had the f'ing nerve to tell me he was going to sign away his rights to the kids - like that's going to stop him from having to support them!!!! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR I just LOVE having such warm, fulfilling conversations in the morning after he's already managed to polish off atleast a pint of vodka and 24 oz of beer and I am struggling to get the boys ready for school and myself together for work.... Now watch - he will call tonight or first thing in the morning when he's sober or semi sober and be all sweet as punch again!!!! Lord grant me the serenity to deal with him!!!! I am trying to just keep smiling and swimming....

He took the boys overnight this weekend and they are still not calmed down - even the baby has been restless at night and waking up a bit more then usual.... Just as I get them calmed down it will start all over again cause he will have them for a visit again this weekend....

BUT on a happy note - I had a dream that Ethen was walking... He was just sooo cute too - just a little itty bitty thing toddling along.... The scarey part is that it's not gonna be just a dream for long - the boy soo wants to MOVE!!!!

Shoot I am so tired suddenly today I just lost my thought - I'll come back later to finish... Well til next time....

Welcome to ETHEN WORLD - this is the little corner of the LR where all his toys are - it's a bit bigger then it looks but I have things arranged so once he goes thru the little tunnel he is sort of blocked into his play area to keep him semi corraled! *L*  And look he stands up at the toy box and plays the piano - he LOVES to make music!!!

Peek a boo!!!!   Guess it's about time to ditch the bassinet....  This is the sight I see regularly now after he wakes from a nap...  We place blanket over the hood part of the bassinet to block light while he's sleeping - when he wakes up now he sits up and peeks out from behind the blanket...  Cute but obviously NOT safe....  Now before you all go getting your panties in a wad - he only naps in there now and again now that he's bigger and he is put in it after he is sleeping - I only have one pack n play and it's in the back of the house but I am gonna get another one for the LR area.... 

Thanksgiving was soooooo peaceful and quiet... Although mom and I had a few issues w/cooking - she sort of took over the turkey and sides.... Then she made the stuffing from TOTAL scratch (not my favo) and shortcutted the sides by using the microwave to start the veggies.... arrrggggggggggggggggggggg BUT we survived and the food was good... We had soup and creamy turkey leftovers the next couple of days...

I took the boys down to see E's mom and sister up from GA Thurs late afternoon - his mom asked when I was having another and then commented on finding another job... WTF???? Ummmmm I am dumping your son AND my job is moving when the base closes --- just what has E said or maybe NOT said???? Whatever!!!!

E took the boys for the entire weekend this past week... It was nice and quiet in the house... I worked on the van - replacing the thermostat and pcv valve... Learned I DON"T have an EGR valve so gonna do the sparkplugs and put in an airfilter that is missing and see what happens.... PRAYING that things start working right w/the van as I really need it to last me atleast another 8 months to a yr minimum - so y'all keep praying.... Then I spent the time mucking out their rooms and setting up a bunkbed set in Dev's room for the boys.... I also managed to get rid of a few things in the shed, covered some windows w/plastic and did a little toy decluttering... I am making progress although not as much as I would like... I have my list though - FINALLY wrote it down which will help me make more progress...

E is supposedly bringing the tree over on Weds so I have a little list of things to do before then so it will be busy in my house the next couple of days PLUS they are calling for THAT STUFF tonight - could be 7 inches!!!!!! UGH UGH UGH!!!

Well it's off to finish up some paperwork and sneak out since I have a killer headache!!! Til next time...